Why we blame others for our mistakes?
We are so fine at this art of making others responsible for all the difficult things happen to us that we don't feel wrong anymore. It's normal for us.
This is something I have seen and experienced that our society supports this as perfectly acceptable. We take the credit for ourselves if things go good in life, but lay blame on others or situations when things go bad.
Let me tell you, playing the blame game never works in the long run. Because people who blame others for their mistakes lose status, learn less, and perform worse in comparison to those who own up to their mistakes.
I agree owning up to mistakes is tough because there is fear of judgment or tarnishing your reputation
But we should be able to take certain self-confidence and humbleness to admit, “Okay yes, I was wrong.”
Why can’t we be just that kind of person? Learning from experiences instead of just adopting those experiences.
Let’s suppose if you take a driver’s test.
If you pass, you will likely make it an internal reason that you studied hard, or that you are naturally a good driver. But if you just fail the same test, suddenly there comes a list of reason, including but not limited to the weather was not suitable today or it wasn’t the car I usually drive, etc.
Blaming others is easy and it does not hold you accountable for things at times, which is a burden off your shoulder for a short time. Also, at times it feeds your need for control and protects your ego.
But do you ever think what are you losing out on by blaming?
Putting blame have long term consequences on your life and personality. And you stand to lose your personal as well as professional growth and positive influence on others and yourself.
In short, by blaming others for your mistakes and happenings, you are spreading the tendency to avoid responsibility to those around you, both at work and at home.
We live in a world with a lot of insecure, and jealous people.
We live in a world with parcel of uncertain , envious individuals. Some of them are our closest companions. Some are close family members. Disappointment panics them. So does our prosperity.
Since when we rise above what we once thought conceivable, stretch our boundaries, and become more, our light reflects off every one of the dividers they've developed around them .
Your light empowers them to see the forms of their own jail, their own self-impediments. Yet, in case they are really the incredible individuals you generally trusted them to be , their envy will develop, and soon their creative mind may bounce its fence, and it will be their chance to improve.
We are altogether our own most exceedingly terrible haters and skeptics since self uncertainty is a characteristic response to any strong endeavor to transform yourself to improve things. You can't prevent it from blossoming in your mind, yet you can kill it, and the wide range of various outer babble by asking , What if?
In any case, not the outer voice will separate you . It's what you reveal to yourself that is important. The main discussions you'll at any point have are simply the ones you'll have. You awaken with them, you stroll around with them, you hit the hay with them , and ultimately you follow up on them. Whatever they be positive or negative.
In search of extra comfort, we tend to leave basic comfort.
Appropriately, most of us are tweaked to search for comfort as a way to deal with numb everything out and cushion the blows. We cut out safe spaces.
We consume social media that insists our feelings, we take up recreation exercises agreed with our gifts, we endeavor to contribute as little energy as possible doing the tasks that we frantically despise and that makes us calm.
We continue with a day by day presence portrays by limits we imagine and wanting for ourselves since it's pleasant as condemnation in that holder. For us , just as for our closest friends and family.
The cutoff focuses we make and recognize become the point of convergence through which they sees us, through which they treasure and like us.
Notwithstanding, for a couple, these limits start to like enslavement, and when we wouldn't dare trusting any longer our imaginative psyche jumps those dividers and pursues down dreams that in the brief outcome feel reachable. Since we are impelled to make changes steadily , and it hurts .
Breaking the shackles and stretching out past our own clear cutoff focuses takes hard screwing work-routinely genuine work – and when you put yourself in danger, self vulnerability and torture will invite you with a stinging blend that will catch your knees.
Each specific life goes with its own modified piece of misery.
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