Choose when to talk & when not.

Learn how to be above and beyond language, learn where to be quiet and speak, that's the biggest life trick. You can solve it. The day you can reach that point where you can choose when to talk and when it doesn't talk internally - not outside. Outside of course, we have control; We can we can decide whether we want to say something or not. 

 When we are in a good state of mind, peace, we can control what we say outside, but a bigger challenge is: Can we control what we say to yourself inside? Even bigger challenges are: Can we say anything? There is not anything. Don't even say, "I'm still silent now." That's the language. When you say to yourself that you are silent, you are not silent. When you say yourself that you are peaceful, you are not peaceful.

When there is nothing but absence of sound, there is no conversation, no language - Do you want to know what Bliss is it? Do you want to know what enlightenment is? Do you want to know what eternity? Do you want to know what life? Do you want to know where you came from, where did you go? Do you want to know the secrets of life? 

Then be silent. As long as you are noisy, you only listen to the language introduced to you by the community, by the people around you. To listen to your own inner voice, you must be silent.

What is our gift language or is it a curse? Is the language of a gift or a curse? Does the language help us or hurt us? It's a fundamental question because somehow we assume that language must be good; Language must be useful. 

This helps us to communicate our ideas; This helps us to connect with people; This expands our understanding of the world and many other things. But, if you ask a spiritual person, if you ask for a meditator, an enlightened person, they will tell you that the language is your biggest obstacle.

 In fact, my whole effort to try to teach you silence and meditation is to help you surpass the language you are stuck. Your teacher will tell you that you are just your language. If you can set up to remain silent, completely silent, for one minute - if you can't use language for a minute, you will become enlightened.



Sometimes we don't need talk, we just need presence.



No matter what you experience today, connecting and communicating with other people is the key to living well, especially if you struggle with disease, depression, addiction, loss of loved ones, or even just lonely. For this reason, it is important to know what to do and where to see when you need to talk.


Try to enter your feelings, cherish and evolve with those emotions, and go alone, it's never effective. In fact, your emotions and feelings are there whether you are talking about them or not. They won't just leave just because you ignore it.

But if you try to talk to other people, you might be able to release some of the tensions and negativity you experience and feel better in the end.

It's closer to the benefits of talking to other people and how to find people to talk when you feel alone or isolated.


Finding someone to talk to not only provides connections, comfort, and understanding, but also offer the opportunity to talk about joint experience and prevent loneliness and isolation.

As a result, talking to other people reduces stress and helps build friendships and connections.

Talking to other people also helps you clear your thoughts and eventually helps you to take wise decision. Speaking also describes you to new perspectives and ideas and helps solving problems. In fact, there are a number of strong psychological benefits to speak.

Make a list of social connections


When you start thinking about who you can open yourself, start by making a list of your social connections. Include people you know from various situations such as family members, friends, Facebook friends, and even colleagues.

Then, try to determine who is on your list is not only emotionally smart but also skilled emotionally. Usually, people with these skills tend to be much easier to talk to because they empathy. After you have a list of possibilities to reach them and invite them to drink coffee or take a walk.

However, you need to recognize that you have to be slow. You will not be able to talk about your deepest feelings from the start. Over time, you can build trust with each other and start sharing more and more intimate details about your life.

Of course, this approach is not ideal if you are in a crisis and need to talk to someone soon, but this is an important part of building a supporting system.

Participate in a group

A great way to make connections and meet new people is to join the group. Once there, you will meet people with passion and the same desire and you are more likely to meet someone that you can build lasting friendship.


Plus, attending meetings and routine events with the group give you the opportunity to socialize and have a relaxed conversation.

Visit the place of worship


Churches, mosques ,temple, shrine are the right place to find someone to talk to. Often, religious leaders are more than happy to talk to people in a crisis or need. So, you might want to look at your local church or shrine as a possible resource.

Even if you don't have current religious affiliates, you might want to pursue different options and see if there are places of worship that match your values ​​and beliefs.

In fact, research has shown that people who attend religious services regularly, have a larger number of bonds and social connections. They also tend to report more positive social interactions and benefit from routine presence than those who attend less rarely.

Here, is a incident that I experienced in this context.

 In one evening, I called my all close friends ( at least whom I thought they were close to me).

Some didn't pick the call , 

Some picked and said they were busy and will call after some time but didn't call back even after hours, 

and last, some were those who picked and free to call but they didn't show any interest, their response showed that I bored them and  just waste their time.

 

In summary 


Sometimes, you don't need talk or long conversation,
you just need presence but people fail to understand it.

They just talk to you till the end you entertain them and do interesting talk to them...….they are happy to talk to you till you listen their chaos and don't tell your situation.

  
It's not uncommon to feel like you don't have anyone to talk to. In fact, everyone feels like it's at least once in their lives.   
You can feel alone and isolated at a party, at work, in your home, or even when spending time with friends.

What's important is that you try to build a supporting system of people you can switch when you need to talk. Ideally, this supporting system will consist of friends and family members and trained and other professionals with similar struggles. In time, feelings like you don't have anyone to talk to it will look like a distant memory.


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