How to Stop Making Excuses.

"I do not know how."

"It might not work."

"I'm too busy."

How often do you catch yourself making reasons. Instead of doing something, you come by way of explaining your solution. Excuse-makers usually look weak, lazy or cowardly.

I believe this is an unfair generalization.

We all make occasional reasons. Sometimes we make reasons and next time we stop rationalizing and taking action. I'm sure most of us can remember times when we delay and throw the day before starting a project. I am also sure most of us can remember our time starting soon, and finished before the schedule.

The difference between these two cases can be described as a difference in will. When you procrastinate, you lack willpower. But it doesn't help. If Willpower is beyond your direct control, then the Will Power claims as a solution will not function.

Instead, I believe that the answer to stop making reasons has two steps:

Breaking a big and uncomfortable step into the pieces that can be managed.

1. Set your priority

What is more important for you now? Expand your finances? Succeed academically? Improve the quality of your relationship? Making reasons is the result of conflicting priorities. When you don't have a system to make a decision, the tendency is to whatever feels best at this time.

You can delete this by defining what your priority is. The aim is to help when one event is contrary to the others. If you have to decide between working on the school project or dating, you need to see your priority. Higher ranking? Relationship or academic success.

Priority Cleanses the need to make reasons, because it simplifies decisions with conflicting values.

With priority, it is important to determine your main focus and small focus. The main focus must benefit from extra attention that you have to devote. Minor focus should not be abandoned, but your goal is to put them on autopilot so that most of your mental energy is devoted to your main focus.

To give an example, my main focus now is this business. Earlier this year I realized that if I made a concentrated effort, I could give a slide tip to this business place to support me full time. I am close to there now, but not enough from the line.

My minor focus is health, relationships, social life, toastmaster and school. This minor focus continues to be done while I increase my income. But most of my mental attention is by the way I can expand this website and offer more value.

Divide your priority into a main focus and some small focus makes it much more difficult to issue reasons. Every time a conflict appears where I usually offer reasons, I can only think of my priority. When priority is clear, it is difficult to justify departing from them.

2. Breaking down discomfort

Mixed priorities are only part of making reasons. The reluctance to step into an uncomfortable situation is the other. Success in almost all efforts requires risking and facing failure. Being a great public speaker requires you to wake up in front of a big audience and maybe give a terrible speech.

The problem is when your priority determines you need to take a big step, and you can't do it. This can mean you want to improve your business, but it's not willing to make a cold call or market your product.

What results make reasons. You find a task that is easier to do and forgive your delay. Rationalizing the feeling that you don't feel comfortable forward.

Fix here is breaking down uncomfortable steps. Laziness is just a manifestation of other fears. So, if you can't take the next step, break it down to the smaller part you can handle. If you can't get up on the stage to talk, try conveying your speech in front of a few friends. If you can't make a cold call, try calling someone you know.

However, sometimes, steps cannot be broken down. You have to deal with it completely or not at all. In this situation you must get leverage on yourself. Give money to  friends to survive until . Make a public commitment. One of these steps will succeed.

Next time you catch yourself making a reason, ask yourself? Is this suitable in my priority? If not and you still find yourself making a reason to ask yourself if there is a way you can push yourself through the next step.

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